The One

Do you really believe that there is only one person for everyone? One person that each one of us is destined to be with; like it’s somehow cosmically predetermined and life is just a series of events leading up to finding them in a sea of millions. That’s a hard concept for me to wrap my head around. I look at some of my married friends; the lives they lead before, the relationships and what they had to go through before they found the one.

Take my friend Jessie. She was in a relationship with Rusty; most of us thought that was it for both of them. He had an affair with her friend. Most of her friends knew what was happening and didn’t stop or tell her. That relationship ended. He moved on to marry another friend; she moved half way across the country and found the one. So her decision to move, leave her friends and family behind, had to be cosmically predetermined. All in the name of finding the one.

What if you miss your chance? What if the one, the cosmically predetermined person, already came into your life and you blew it? What if they were in your life but you never acted on the chance and now it’s passed. Will you get a second chance? How will the cosmically predetermined person re-enter your life, if they are really the one? Should you question each person from your past who crossing your path again? Are they the one? How will you know? Will there be a neon flashing sign above the person’s head – THE ONE, THE ONE, THE ONE, like something off the Las Vegas strip? Doubtful.

So, you have this person who you knew years ago, at a time in your life when things were changing. You were learning about yourself, about your life path, who you wanted to become and who you wanted to share in your memories. You lost touch, you reconnected several years later, you lost touch, you reconnected. Maybe your losing touch again. Are they the one? What if you can’t get them out of your head? Everything you see, hear, or do, make you think of this person. Anytime you have a free second your thoughts go to that person. Does that mean you should pose the question – is there a chance for us? Do you put yourself out there, allow yourself to be venerable in a situation that you can’t control? Do you leave it up to cosmically predetermined? What if they reject you? How many times does someone have to come back into your life, at exactly the moment you need them the most, before you really believe they are THE ONE?